Mawwige is what bwings us togevvah today…
-The Princess Bride
It’s great that you want to get married, and we’re happy to help!
There are so many details regarding marriage and often we end up “putting the cart before the horse.” Marriage is a lifelong commitment that is both real fun… and real work. And while it’s not something that should be done lightly, the process of preparation is a blessing. It will give you the tools you’ll need to build a solid foundation for the years to come.
So let’s get the ball rolling!
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Check the Calendar
Reach out via the Contact Page or email Debbie Boyd (debbie at stacitadel.org) to ensure that Father Greg is available on BOTH the date of the wedding and the rehearsal.
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Check Your Venue
If you’d like your ceremony to be held at Summerall Chapel (or the side chapel at St. Alban’s), contact Nancy Lefter (nancy.lefter at citadel.edu).
If you’d like your ceremony to be held at Church of the Holy Cross (Sullivan’s Island, Daniel Island, or I’on), contact Leslie Rose (leslie at holycross.net).
Off-site weddings are acceptable, provided they can maintain a worshipful atmosphere – skydiving is out of the question! 🙂
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Check the Service
Father Greg only performs services out of the Book of Common Prayer, which is the form most ceremonies follow. There is plenty of room for adaptation, style variation, etc. Just ask! Please read through a sample service before deciding on Father Greg as your officiant.
Music, bulletins, and other details are your responsibility. We’re happy to make suggestions!
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Forms, Forms & More Forms
Declaration of Intention
This states your intention to be married to one another. It should be signed and either emailed to Debbie Boyd (debbie at stacitadel.org) or physically brought with you to your first session with Father Greg.
This gives us the details we’ll need to order your course materials and keep your record updated.
If you have been divorced, there are special pastoral provisions required to guide you in your next steps. Please fill out this form and send it to Father Greg as soon as possible.
Remarriage is not a guaranteed outcome of premarital counseling and we must have the Bishop’s permission prior to the wedding. The form details the provisions that we must meet prior to the wedding. Do not plan anything (deposits, caterers, etc.) until you receive this form back. Plan on 45 days from submission to approval or denial.
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The fee is $500 and includes:
- Up to five pre-marriage coaching sessions
- Preparation of the service
- Performance of the service at the ceremony and rehearsal
- All course materials (DVD, book, workbooks, and additional resources)
Please pay this fee in total prior to your last marriage coaching session.
Checks can be made payable to St. Alban’s Chapel or payment can be made online.
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Receive the Course Materials
The course materials are ordered on your behalf and sent to you. Once you get them you can dive right in – they’re yours to keep.
- The Marriage Preparation Course DVD
- The Marriage Preparation Course Workbooks (one for each of you)
- The Marriage Book by Nicky and Sila Lee
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Schedule Your Sessions
Click through to Father Greg’s calendar scheduler and set yourself up for five sessions! It’s best to give yourself at least a week between sessions to allow for plenty of discussion and info processing.
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Begin the Course
Download the Course Syllabus here and get this party started!